Make Small Talk Sexy -Weird Flirting Trick
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Here are the top five ways men murder their conversations with women before they ever even have a chance to create attraction.
Let’s face it…
If you want to create attraction in a woman… you must possess the ability to talk.
You can know all the “secret attraction building techniques” in the world… but if you can’t carry a conversation… YOU GET NOWHERE…. (Don’t worry, we’ll discuss some of those “secret attraction building techniques in later newsletters)
Right now I want to concentrate on the exact ways you’re killing your conversations… probably without realising it.
Mistake #1: Breaking the 90/10 Rule When Starting a Conversation
Have you ever noticed that most conversations don’t pick up steam until about 5-10 minutes in?
This is because when you start talking to someone new, especially somebody you do not know yet, they are going to be just as cold inside their heads as you were before you psych yourself up – making yourself ready to start that conversation.
A conversation needs time to build “conversation momentum.”
The problem most guys face is that they don't ever give their conversations a chance to build that “momentum.”
Most guys expect to hit this “conversation flow” too quickly. And because of this the opposite effect happens… and their conversations just “stall out.”
Well you have to carry the conversation. Be prepared, in the first five or so minutes, to carry the conversation by providing 90, or even sometimes 100, percent of all the content until they get warmed up a little bit.
How do you do that?
Keep talking!
Well the rule is very simple: Just keep talking.
By taking control of the conversation right from the beginning, you allow her time to “warm up” and shift her brain from “receive mode” rather than “give mode.”
In future lessons I’m going to show you exactly what tools you need to be able to do this… but for now, just know you HAVE to be prepared to talk 90% of the time for the first 5-10 minutes of your conversations….
Mistake #2: Not Recognizing the Signals a Woman is Giving Them
You have to recognize the signals that women are giving to you so you know whether you have got the right kind of emotional intensity – the right energy – and whether the topics you are talking about are actually even appropriate for this point in the conversation.
How do you do that?
Well, you use your senses. Your eyes and your ears are your best friends. You have got to watch people’s reactions and learn to be able to read them.
You have a good sense of when you are boring her, when she is excited and how she is reacting to you. You just have to make sure you pay attention.
The rule of thumb is when you first start a conversation with someone or with a group of people you want to have a little bit more energy than that group had before you came in.
If you get to recognize where she is at in terms of her energy level, her enthusiasm, her excitement, how her neurology is wired up and lit up, and you can pitch your own energy level to be just slightly above that, you will be sure to be a success wherever you go because you will not be too much and you will not be too little.
It’s jam packed with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for creating the right mindset for talking to a woman, getting “in the zone”, making her laugh, creating rapport, keeping a conversation flowing naturally, overcoming “shit tests”, dealing with guys who might be overshadowing you, and most importantly, creating attraction as you talk to her…
This is arguably the most comprehensive “conversation training” you will ever receive. There is no way you can listen to this program and not come away with at least a dozen tips that will change the way you communicate with women …nearly immediately.
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